Everything happens for you, not to you.

Have you ever just looked up at the stars? Just stared and realized their beauty of twinkling in and out.  Tonight there is a meteor shower and a super-moon so I thought it was prime time to go into the hot tub and just embrace the universes beauty.  While sitting in there soaking up the glorious hot water, I felt very at ease with the world and the things going on in my life.

Tonight, I have been faced over and over again with the thought of how relationships function.  I realize that everything isn’t black and white.  People change and evolve throughout the years and sometimes you have to work on the relationship in order to make it last.  But there is a very thin line between working on the relationship and settling in the relationship.    I’ve seen more friends of mine than I can count that settle in their relationship with their significant other, I’ve settled myself.  For me, I didn’t realize I had settled until afterwards when it slapped me in the face.  It was this immense feeling of ease that rushed over me once I had cut the cords for good and that’s not how it should be.  But I didn’t comprehend that during the relationship.  It was my normal.  Settling for being his mom, rather than his girlfriend was my normal.

But tonight as I was looking up at the magnificent sky I had this sudden consciousness that everything simply happens for you, NOT to you.  And that while I 150% believe that no woman, or man should ever settle, I equally believe that everything that happens, happens for you, not to you.  So I took a step back from my day to day struggles and applied that to my life.  My relationships.  And I took that fine line and crossed it, back and forth, between working on my relationship and settling.  I think it’s important that you can make that distinction, during and after any relationship.  Are you helping them grow, while putting yourself down or helping them grow while pulling yourself up?  That is a very important question and I think you know the answer.

Let me clarify.  The woman or man that verbally or physically abuses you is not the one that you should be settling for.  However, it is the one whom needs to grow up a little, but needs a little push in order to make that happen, that you should should settle for, in the sense that you are helping them grow, while growing yourself.

I encourage you to point out why certain aspects in your relationship don’t work.  Speak your mind and be blunt because you get one life.  One chance to make relationships work.  One MOMENT.  And then it’s gone.  POOF!  And I do not want to hear any could have, should have, would haves.  I want to live in the moment.  Taking in everything that is going on in my day to day and realizing that it is happening for me.  For me to grow.  For me to evolve.  For me to help others.  Whatever the purpose is, it will find me.  For everything I am seeking, is already seeking me.

With this meteor shower and super-moon going on, try and let go of what no longer serves you so that you can make room for everything that will serve you.  It’s a beautiful thing that happens when you let go of all that holds you back and you invite the room to be filled with the intelligent, beautiful, perfect person that you are.  I hope you see a shooting star tonight!

The light in me honors and cherishes the beautiful light in each and everyone of your beautiful souls.